Stardust, Dreamdust: Change Your Thoughts!

So I’ve been back at school for about a week now, and there has been a lot taking place.  Catching up with friends, buying books, classes, readjusting to the campus, and so on, and I promised myself that this year I would do things a little differently.   So I hit the ground running.  If there were chapters to be read, I read them all.  If there were assignments, community service opportunities, people to talk to, errands to run, and so on, I planned and set time aside to do things quickly and efficiently before their deadlines.  Why? Because Procrastination is my opponent and we’ve been fighting each other since I set foot in this place.  I would be so slack, for no reason at all.  It wasn’t that I couldn’t get things done, it was just that I didn’t feel like doing it.  I would keep putting it off and keep pushing it back.  I knew that if I did not try extremely hard to break habits in the beginning, I would be doomed to fall back into my old way of doing things and be back at it with procrastination once again.   In the past seven days, and already in these first 18 days of the New Year, I have tried to view my world differently.  I want to open my mind to different opportunities, and try to understand things that I used to avoid (cautiously, of course).  Things that I’ve perceived to be one way based off of my own experiences were far from truth.  Life is not always just black and white but it is dominated by the grays. That’s why I want to use the quote by Norman Vincent Peale as the main focus of this post.

“Change your thoughts and you change your world”

I’ve had this quote in my email signatures for a few years now and for some reason it is just now smacking me in the face lol.  I mean duh, why did it take me so long to put this into action?  All the while I have been defeated by things even before I tried them just because I went in with the mindset that it “couldn’t be done”, or “I couldn’t (can’t) do it”.  Or in some situations I went in thinking, “that’s not for me” or “I don’t have time”, or even “Nah I’m good”.  How do I even know if I’ve never tried it?

This quote can be applied to so many different life situations: personal, professional, religious, leisure, etc.  There are even situations where people did some of the most unheard of, miraculous, and phenomenal things just because they had a belief deep down that it could be done, or it had to be done.

So my friends, we have to change our mindsets. THINK BIG, THINK POSITIVE, THINK OUTSIDE THE BOX!  Our thoughts influence our beliefs, our beliefs influence our goals, and our goals influence our everyday actions.  They can open doors but they can also close them.   They can touch lives, or ruin them.  The mind is powerful, and what you choose to do with yours will affect your life.  God gave you that brain of yours.  He gave you wisdom and intellect, and strength in your bones to do the impossible.  But without Faith, Trust, Hope, Belief, all mental entities, what can be done??

Think about it…

Love,

Presh

Stardust, Dreamdust: Finding Your Purpose

Have you ever wondered what your life purpose was?

Personally I used to always wonder about it too, but when I found out what it was my life has never looked the same.  I have hope and know that life is full of possibilities.  No more will I be subject to the expectations of others but I can now define my life according to my passions.

Before finding out my purpose I used to go crazy trying to figure it out.  I used to be dramatic about it too.  When I got a bad grade, or was not doing as so well as a biology major I would want to give up and the excuse was always “I’m not cut out for this”, “I don’t want to do this for the rest of my life”. I wanted to switch my major, and I honestly think I would have if my parents didn’t tell me not to do it. I was like this all the way up until my Senior year in College.  Going into senior year, my mindset was completely different.  Even though I hadn’t figured out my purpose, something told me to give it all that I could, and push myself past my limits.  That’s a lesson in and of itself.

So when did I figure out my purpose?

Well, one day, while I was home for Thanksgiving break, I was laying on my bed… staring at the ceiling… thinking about life.  I know, a little cliché, but that’s not just it.  Something told me to pull out my bible and to read the book of Ecclesiastes.  I’d remembered the words of Solomon as he told of his experimentation with the ways one could live life, and his conclusions and findings of what he observed.  I read the whole book from the beginning of Chapter 1 to the last verse of Chapter 12, writing down scriptures that stood out to me.  I came out with three main points.

  1.  Fear God and keep His commandments
  2. Eat, Drink, and Enjoy the work of our hands, for it is the inheritance of God
  3. Do what is the joy of our hearts

(Ecclesiastes 3:12-13; 5:18-20; 9: 10-11; 10: 5-6, 9-10)

I found these to be very mind stimulating points.  Our sole purpose as humans is to fear God, keep his commandments and enjoy life by doing what brought our hearts joy.  Pretty simple, right?… Not quite.

I wasn’t so sure of what it was that brought me joy,  I knew what I wanted to do with my life, but I wasn’t sure why I wanted to do it, and that brought into question the reasons behind my decision to even major in biology in the first place, but that will be discussed in the next post.

So I took out pen and paper and wrote down things that I enjoyed doing, writing down anything that came to mind.  After I couldn’t think of anything else, I went back to the top and evaluated each item on the list, one by one, asking myself these questions:

  1. Can I do this for a lifetime and not grow tired of it?
  2. If I never did this again, would my life be miserable?
  3. Does this come easy for me?
  4. Do people respect me when I do this?
  5. Am I passionate about this?

There was only one item that answered all five questions.  And the way my heart warmed when meditating on this was evidence that it was the right one.  I thanked God for the revelation.

So, that is how I figured out my purpose, it wasn’t as hard as I thought, but it took a lot of being honest with myself and digging deep.    If this way doesn’t work for you there is a Tedx talk that I found to be helpful which also reassured my purpose once again for me.  Check it out, and I’d love to hear how it goes for you.

 

 

Live life on Purpose, don’t allow people, or society to tell you what to do with your life.  A life spent chasing money and fame, without passion will always be a life lacking true happiness.  God has given each of us a specific purpose that was designed uniquely for us.  They are found in our gifts and talents. Don’t sit on them.  It is written in Proverbs 18, verse 16 “A man’s gift makes room for him, And brings him before great men.”  Find your true life purpose, chase it, use it to bring God glory, and I guarantee your life will be great.

I pray God reveals it to you, just as he did for me, may God bless You!

Love Presh

Be Encouraged

Hey everyone,

I was feeling kind of down yesterday.  I got my feelings hurt so bad that I was at the point of tears.  Sometimes people can be so cruel and not even realize it.  Sometimes I like to think of myself as strong but I know I’m not.  I’m in a phase of metamorphosis and these are always moments of weakness.  I’m trying to get rid of the old and the bad and take on the new but it is so hard and such a long and slow process.

 I really don’t want to go into detail about what happened because I’m trying to push myself past it but I just want to say that whenever you are trying to do something good or beneficial, expect tension and struggle.  EXPECT IT!  Because when you expect it, you are prepared to handle it and keep moving.  When you don’t expect it that is when you end up like me, crying your eyes out because someone doubted your abilities, told you that you won’t succeed, or attacked your character.                  

So be encouraged people, and don’t let anyone or anything deter you from what you seek after, even if they are your closest friends.  Friends often think that they are helping you out because they feel as if they “know you”.  They feel like they know what’s best for you and that they should shield you from the consequences of a bad decision.  Depending on the situation this may be true, but most often, these same friends can be the people weighing you down, keeping you from your goals, and interfering with the plans that God has for you.                  

The truth of the matter is, sometimes the closest people to us, don’t know anything about who we are as an individual.  They know external things like where we’re from, where we grew up, who our family members are, but when it comes to the way that we think, or how we feel, or inner struggles, they just don’t seem to see it.   The inner workings of our minds and the desires of our hearts, are the most misread, and misinterpreted because of their complexity.   

Not to say that this is so for everybody, because I know it is not.  But just think about it.  How often will you tell a friend something and the next thing they say is something along the lines of a “yeah, right.”

Example 1

 Friend 1: “Yeah, so I’ve been thinking about cutting my hair. I’ve always wanted to try short hair. I think I might want to go natural.”

Friend 2: “Are you serious.  Look how long your hair is, you don’t need to do that.  You’re gonna be walking around here looking bald-headed. You don’t know how you will look with an afro. Plus it’s winter, it’s too cold for that.”        

Example 2

Friend 2:  “What you over there working on?  You’re just typing away, I hope you ain’t on facebook.”

Friend 1:  “I’m working on my blog.”

Friend 2:  “Your blog?  When you start doing stuff like that?”

Friend 1:  “I told you I was gonna start one, I’ve had it for months now.”

Friend 2: “Girl, I thought you were joking.  So what, now you don’ cut your hair, and you rocking your little afro, you gon be like all those youtube girls?  

Friend 1: “I don’t really upload videos, I just write…”

Friend 2:  “Just because you decided to go natural doesn’t mean you can start giving people advice about hair and healthy living, leave that to the pros sweetie.  Plus you need to be working on these lab reports.  All of this sounds like a big distraction. You’re the one who said you were gonna make changes from last semester.”

Can anybody relate to these situations in some form or another? It may not be your friend saying these things but it could be a parent, spouse, sibling, etc.  Personally, I used to hear this all the time.  I would tell my parents that I didn’t want to be a doctor anymore (yeah, biology was kicking my butt, even thought about switching my major) because I grew more interested in Public Health.  I got so much negativity about it, it shocked me.  They were just like why this and why that.  Just go to medical school and then see what happens.  Doctors can do more for people, and they will make more money. BLAh Blah, Blah.

When I said that I wanted to take a Hindi Language course at school, my dean told me that it wouldn’t be as beneficial as learning Spanish, which I have been learning off and on since I was in the 4th grade, still not exceeding beyond beginner level.

When I said I wanted to wear orange boots for homecoming (my mom bought them to match our school colors), my friend told me that I had no style, and that I had to be confident to wear boots like that.

All these were said to me by people who I felt would support me and have my back.   Initial reactions to their words left me feeling discouraged, sad, and unsure of myself.  BUT, I went on and did what I set out to do. It almost makes you think that you are making a bad decision and it sure doesn’t feel good to be bumping heads, but I knew that I had to follow my heart.  I knew what I wanted, and I refused to let anyone stop or discourage me.  You guys can do the same.  

 Let your heart and mind lead, if people are truly concerned about you and want to see you succeed, then they will see your desire for it and eventually they have no choice but to come around in the end.

Example 3:

Friend 2:  “Hey, I found your blog online the other day and I read some of it.”

Friend 1: “Yeah! What did you think?”

Friend 2:  “It was pretty good, I didn’t know you wrote so well.”

Friend 1:  “Well, there is a lot about me that you don’t know.”

Keep going, don’t give up, and know that YOU can do all things through Christ who strengthens you.

Love,

Presh